With the advent of a new year, many of us are thinking about goals, dreams, and visions for the future. We’re reflecting on last year, what went well and what we’d like to change going forward. Come January, we tend to be very focused on both the past and the future.
While l enjoy all of these annual rituals, I also know that I don’t want to miss out on the present. I want to savor this season with my family. It’s the last semester that my kids will be at the same school until our daughter is a senior and our son a freshman. Our daughter will graduate high school in just six years. The calendar turning to 2020 has given me perspective of how quickly the seasons pass.
I want to focus on how to be present without my family in the here and now. I find myself asking, “How can I connect with my family and invest in them today?”
We were recently looking at pictures on my phone and it’s amazing how quickly kids grow up. In a different season, that seems not too long ago, I was overwhelmed with being at home all day with a toddler and a newborn. Although I look back and remember the hard from that season, I also look back and remember the sweetness. I wish I would have enjoyed it more while I was living it. I can’t believe that later this week, we’re attending middle school orientation.
Gretchen Rubin said of parenting, “The days are long but the years are short.” I completely agree!
I found some other quotes that can give us perspective and help us savor our family’s current season:
“Parents are often so busy with the physical rearing of children that they miss the glory of parenthood, just as the grandeur of the trees is lost when raking leaves.”
– Marcelene Cox
“If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first and the house later. I’d fingerpaint more and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch and watch with my eyes. I’d take more hikes and fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious – and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging and less tugging.”
– Diane Loomans
Aren’t these such good reminders?
Whatever goals, dreams or resolutions you set for this year, remember to savor your season. One constant in life is change, so let’s slow down and enjoy the current age and stage of our kids!